The following story is a true account I had with a neighbor I will be referring to as chihuahua guy (mostly because he is always walking his chihuahuas in the park) and a guy I will call Parker (mostly cause he is always in the park talking to everyone). While the accounts I had are the true and actual accounts that I personally encountered, I am not completely certain that the whole story is accurate. Having said that, please use your own judgement while reading it.
Parker is what I like to refer to as the friendly neighborhood man-whore. He comes around often and as 18 year old men go, he is of average looks and low mental capacity. He is a hopeless flirt with every female he comes in contact with (ie me and other ghetto moms) but mostly with younger girls. I don't use the term girl lightly. I am talking he engages in conversations with 12-14 year old girls. These girls do not look 18. I know sometimes we feel bad or take pity on "men" that fall for a girl posing that she is older than she is. The girls in this story look 12 and 13 (especially with make-up on, I don't get why little girls put on too much make-up making themselves think they look older, but actually it makes them look like a little girl that played in mommy's make-up).
Anyways, back to the story, I ran into chihuahua guy yesterday and he informed me that Parker would no longer be going to the park. Of course we then dove into the semantics of the why. Apparently Parker had engaged in some sort of 3-way relations with himself, a 12 year old and a 13 year old girl. When others in the neighborhood found out, and by this I mean when the little girls trying to act grown told anyone that would give them any attention at all that they had "related" with Parker, the police were called.
I guess the police went to the residence of the young girls and inquired as to whether or not the incident had in fact occurred. The little girls tried to deny it, but one let it slip that they had had some form of sexual contact. At that point, it was up to the parent (I say parent cause everyone and their mom knows this lady, knows she is a single mom, and we are all pretty certain what she does to buy her habit) to press charges. She refused. She claimed her "child" was a shameful slut and was often promiscuous. Further she insisted that nothing happen to Parker as he was not the one to blame.
A group of older neighborhood guys has now taken it upon themselves to defend the little girls of the park and it's been said that if Parker should return, it would not be to his best interest. Keep in mind I know the guys and let's just say I am not trying to anger them in anyway, anytime soon. Parker would be wise to not come back to this park.
Now that I have shared my story for the day I would like to add some thoughts:
I have 3 beautiful amazing little girls. My daughters paint their nails, get temporary tattoos, chase butterflies, ride bikes, go down slides, kiss me goodnight, and laugh over the little things in life. I was 22 years old when I gave birth to my twins and just a year later I had my 3rd daughter. When my girls are 12 and 13, I will be 35 years old. At 35 years old many women are still having babys of their own, but potentially I could be a grandma.
I won't be a grandma at 35. I want to make that perfectly clear. I didn't really even think about having sex until high school. My daughters will not be either!!! Girls that are that young having sex are lacking love at home. They are lacking attention there so they are out seeking it anywhere they can get it. Then when an 18 year old man approaches a 12 year old girl she is actually just looking for a father figure, someone to step in and say all the things she isn't hearing at home and once he says them the first time she will do anything to keep hearing those words.
I know these girls. These girls don't like me because I "Talk to all their boyfriends". I took it upon myself to have a sit-down conversation with them which actually inspired me to go home and cry. For those that know me well, you know this isn't an easy feat. I have cried over about 7 people in my life. 4 of those were my kids. I explained to the girls that I had zero intentions of messing with the "men" that I personally feel are boys. Continued to tell them that all men want one thing, and if they want more than one thing then they would marry them first. I told them how difficult it is to be a single mom. I told them that they are not ready for pregnancy and motherhood and if they had kids now the chances that their children would be teenage parents is much higher. I told them to wash off the make-up and work on themselves and find a guy that fits into their life, not to try to fit themselves into someone else's life. Mostly, I told them that they were loved and I was here to talk anytime.
Unfortunately, I was not equipped for the response. The jests of it are now in quotes: "There are abortion centers and adoption centers where I can get paid for my baby." "Mama said you are just jealous of us cause you are fat." "You need to stop trying to be our friend and worry about your own brats." "We're going to be way more than you will ever be." "I can have sex with whoever I want, that's why they invented birth control."
Ya, that was the jest just add your own profanity about every other word. Really though I don't blame the girls, not for any of it. Kids are a product of their environment. In my house, Parker would have been sitting in jail tonight. My girls would have been in counseling or military school, or never leaving the house. For me it would be whatever it's going to take to keep my kids from having sex! For me it would not be acceptable for an 18 year old man to make my child a victim! If the police didn't do something about it, I would be doing something myself!
Not this lady. Not this time. Not these kids. Someday I will see them, "raising" kids of their own. They will be too young, too ill-equipped, and too lazy to care, just like their mom.
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