I am blogging instead of being able to do my homework....which I need to do badly so if you don't like this blog and want to call it "weak", don't read it... for those that love my writing, you may continue.
I was at the park, you know that one with the river across from the hospital with 58,979 geese, feeding the them when I suddenly had this flashback to being a child. When I was little I read this wonderful tale, I'm sure we all know it, about a little duck that was different (ugly). The duck grows up and becomes this amazingly beautiful swan and all the ducks that made fun of him were oh so jealous. The moral being that if you are born ugly, you can change into a very attractive person with age. While sometimes that occurs, the majority of the time, it doesn't. (at least without some expensive surgery it doesn't)
I bring this up because we are sending the wrong message to our kids every night before we go to bed. Our daughters are out there looking for their night in shining armour and instead they find a retard in tin foil. They are looking for a handsome prince charming, and instead get a sexy prince lying. They kiss a frog and all they get is a rash on their mouth. It's sad, but it's where the reality is headed. I found my retarded, lying, idiots. I could continue to look forward to my fairy tale ending, but let's face it, I am no Kate Middleton, nor am I getting any younger.
You are going to become pretty by being teased. You are going to find a man by eating an apple and getting very sick. Most importantly, you are not going to grow a fin and live with the mermaids. It's sad. They are all impressive tales of how one finds happiness. We all want to be that princess on some level. On another level I think every man wants to be someones prince. They want to ride in on a white horse and rescue the princess, but guys, I'm not a princess. This is no fairy tale. At the end of the day you are still the ugly ogre, and I am someone where in between the girl that needs rescued, and the girl of your dreams.
I want to tell my girls instead tales of truth. You don't need a man to validate who you are. Be confident in yourself and be amazing with or without a man. You can't be anything you want, but if you apply yourself you can have a very productive career in a field that suits you well. There are girls that will be jealous of you and that's why they call you names, but there will also be girls that are mean to you because they are in fact prettier and more popular than you. The mirror isn't magic. What you see is what you get, so if you are not happy with it, change it. The woodland creatures won't be singing and many are rather tasty. There are some evil people out there. If you think there is some good in everyone, you haven't met everyone. You can't sing your way through life. Sometimes the little engine can try and try, but he just can't get up.
I also want to tell my boys these truths. Not every girl is a princess. Sometimes she really is an evil queen dressed really nicely. If you find a girls shoe, and it's made of glass, chances are she is a gold digger. Return it out of courtesy, but RUN!!! Not every girl is dying to go with you to the ball. Some will turn you away, be hard to get, and those girls, those are the ones worth winning over. Girls don't always have their hair perfect, wear pretty dresses, and get trapped in towers to wait for you. Sometimes you have to take a chance and go looking. No girl can turn you into a prince with a kiss. She can kiss you til the cows come home (where they were before this, I don't know) but at the end of the day you are still going to be the person you always were.
Before you all think I am a total downer, there are a few lessons I did learn from the movies. There's no place like home. Happily ever after just gets you to the sequel. He who has many friends, has no friends. He that finds discontentment in one place is not likely to find happiness in another. A change of scene does not change one's character.
At the end of the day I don't want you to think I am playing the big bad wolf and not allowing my kids to have dreams. I am trying to keep their dreams concrete. Building a pipe dream is very cold and very unobtainable. Building a house out of straw because it's easy and affordable temporarily can cost you in the end.
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