Once upon a time....in a land not so far away I was given an analogy. One man in a certain female's life was all that and a bag of chips and another certain male was all that and a sweet chocolate chip cookie. Personally, I prefer cookies to chips the majority of the time, so it should have been a no-brainer as to which man she should have been with right?
It wasn't. The reason being that if either choice had been the right choice, there would have been no choice to make at all. Rather she would have decided, been consistent, and been happy knowing that she was with the person she was supposed to be with.
Of course, that was high school, and as is the case with most high school flames, it burned out quickly and was never mentioned again. I think the reason many women believe there should be a choice is that we like being liked. We want a million guys to validate us with their comments, gifts, and other actions (ya, you know what I am talking about). We want to not just be wanted, but to be fought over.
The thing of it is we are like to be hard to obtain, hard to keep once obtained, and remain obtainable in case something or someone better comes along. So, we place these "walls" and "rules" around us like a fortress. We tell men we are hard to get, and that we are amazing in hopes that they will "believe" us.
Sadly, the women that are wanted by the most men are usually the loneliest. They can't/refuse to confine themselves to one relationship. They always assume they can do better. It's the grass is always greener effect. There will always be a hotter guy. There will always be a smarter guy. There will always be a more affluent guy. There will be a better dressed guy. (and he will be gay) What we women fail to realize is there are also female counterparts to these guys. Prettier, more intelligent, rich and well put together women are out there.
Truthfully, it's not about what's "better". Hot guys don't always make us laugh. Smart guys don't always know us for who we are. Money can't buy happiness and you can't turn your best gay friend straight. There is no "perfect" guy. A nice guy, that listens, makes you laugh, holds a job, and takes care of your needs, that's the guy you should be seeking. That's the kinda man that will make your dreams come true!
Now here is my lesson to you men out there: not every girl reads/understands/believes my blog. At the end of the day the only girl you can make happy is the girl that was happy before she met you. A girl that's not happy with herself needs the attention of multiple men. This girl will cheat! She will possibly even be a whore. Having said that, once you have a girl remind her daily why you are with her. Validate her feelings with compliments, random Tuesday gifts, and tell her you love her every day. Don't let things get boring just because it's not new anymore. Open doors, pull chairs, brush her hair outta her face before you kiss her. It's the little things in our own yard that keep of from admiring the neighbor's grass.
Finally girls, my lessons to the boys apply to you too. But here are some additional thoughts for married women. Men have three moods: Horny, hungry, and tired. If he isn't sleeping and doesn't want sex get him a sandwich and a beer. Appreciate what you have so he will want to appreciate you. Don't make him do your chores, do your part so he can do his. The happier the man is the happier he will make you.
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