"Before you criticize someone, you should walk a mile in their shoes. That way, when you criticize them, you're a mile away and you have their shoes."
Yes, I did set this as my most recent status. Thanks for noticing. Now I would like to discuss it. Often, especially lately, I have found idiots that are sitting around taking pity on themselves. Oh I am so fat! So work out, don't sit around eating twinkies. Oh I'm so ugly! Save some money and fix your face. Oh I don't have a significant other! Fix yourself before you going looking to fill a void that really only you can fill. Oh I am so broke! Get educated to get a better job. Or get a second job. Or go hold a sign on the corner and beg like the guy by Kohls.
Now that that is out of the way, here is some truth. Only you can fix yourself. Only you can save yourself. Only you can make you happy. It that harsh? Perhaps it is. It is real. It's the most real thing that I can ever say to you. Fix yourself. It's not my job, your parent's job, your friend's job, or your significant other's job. Get off the couch. Go out the door. Keep going until you know why you were at home sitting on the couch unhappy in the first place.
He broke me. He left and I am broke. Financially, emotionally, physically, and unequivocally broken. I blame all my brokenness on him and that eliminates my need for personal accountability. If I just sit here crying eventually he will realize how amazing I am and come back to his family. WRONG!!!! Oh so wrong!!!! All the time I sat there feeling the gloom and doom of what I was missing, he was missing nothing. All the tears I cried, he was off living without me. So I must live without him. If I am having fun, I win. Every time I smile I win. Every time I have a great moment, even if it's without him, I WIN!!!
You see girls/guys we spend so much time thinking that we are nothing without someone that we become lost in who we are not. I don't need you to laugh. I don't need you to run through a water sprinkler in 80 degree weather fully clothed. I don't need you to lay beside me at night while I am having amazing dreams. I don't need you to tell me I am beautiful, I already know. I don't need you to accompany me while I shop, drive, eat, drink or do any other part of my daily routine, because not only can I do it myself, but I do it better alone. I am my own best company. I always agree with myself. I have all my same values. I don't tempt my own fate. I rock today, and I will kick butt tomorrow.
Knowing all of these things doesn't eliminate the need for companionship. I am not saying that at all. We all need to interact with someone. We need to make jokes. We need to talk through our problems. We need to touch and be touched. We need to hug. We need to kiss. We need to not only love ourselves, but love each other as well. So when we spend our time blaming, hating, or resenting another person, perhaps we really should take a walk. (a metaphorical walk). We should separate ourselves from the situation and really reflect on what we are lacking that is allowing us to react the way that we are reacting. We shouldn't take our personal short-comings out on someone else to make ourselves feel better.
My thought for the day is this: we take something away from every situation we are in. We take a piece of the person we share it with and we leave behind a piece of who we were. Every situation changes us. Change isn't always good or bad. Change may just be an outward perception of the inner person we always have been.
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